Radical Forgiveness: A Powerful Healing Practice

by Rev. Rae Metheny

Most of us already know that forgiveness is THE key element to clearing the blocks in our lives to living a fulfilling spiritual life. Neale Donald Walsh endorses Radical Forgiveness as ."the most exciting book on forgiveness to come out in a very long time." John Bradshaw says, "{Radical Forgiveness} gives us the tools that make genuine forgiveness possible, enabling us to really move beyond our pain and heal our lives." The principal message (which made it through most of the Christian iterations) of the Master Teacher, Jesus, is the importance of forgiveness. By divine appointment, you are reading this article to further move along your path to a more joyous life. And Radical Forgiveness is a tool to help to get you there.

"Forgiveness is never ordinary. It is heroic," says Colin Tipping, author of Radical Forgiveness, Making Room for the Miracle. True forgiveness must include letting go completely of victim consciousness and the victim archetype, which is so clearly described in Carolyn Myss' work. What is radical about forgiveness is "seeing the Truth behind a painful circumstance of a situation and recognizing the love that always exists there."

Sometimes our souls collude with one anther to bring to our awareness a false belief that needs to be healed. When you suppress your feelings, your soul decides to create some drama in your life so you will bring it to consciousness again and have the opportunity to choose healing once more. How many times have you repeated the same story with different characters, only to be hurt again?

Through the Radical Forgiveness process you are asked to examine a WILLINGNESS to see a situation differently as the key to your healing. In this way, what feels like a terrible situation, is actually perfect from a spiritual perspective. Souls come together to do what is actually a healing dance of an old hurt that wants to be healed. "In becoming willing, you let go of control and surrender it to God. Understanding at a deep level and surrendering to the idea that God will handle this for you.is the source for your healing."

I have been a willing servant to many people who have healed old pains of the past through the tools of RF. RF is a process by which you release stuck energy and stuffed down energy that crystallizes as cancer and other illnesses. As a result, your healing is both emotional and physical. In my own life, I have released 78 pounds as a direct result of the tools of RF. Truly, I have taken my life back as a result of this process. And there are many other healing stories to tell.

One of the great gifts of RF is the idea that those of us who have been on "enlightened spiritual paths" for a long time can no longer do "spiritual by-paths." We often deny ourselves the human experience of having anger, pain or resentment because these emotions are not "spiritual". As a result of denying our humanness, we by-pass our feelings totally, and the energy of our anger and hurt and loneliness gets stuck in our bodies as dis-ease. RF gives you permission to tell the story and feel the feelings as a part of the spiritual work. Then you reframe the story and examine the Spiritual Truth behind a situation. This is the beginning and a very important step of the healing process. Colin says: "You have your B-S story, but how much longer do you want to hang out there?" Dr. Tom Costa, a Religious Science Minister in Palm Desert, California says; "You can get in the valley, but don't build a condominium there!" The tools help you to integrate the Truth.

The process of Radical Forgiveness is available to you in many ways. The Radical Forgiveness Ceremony, based on a Native American healing circle, is offered every six weeks here in the Triangle. This almost entirely non-verbal experience allows you to learn the principles of Radical Forgiveness and "walk the circle" and the stages of Radical Forgiveness. The stages are: tell the story, feel the feelings, collapse the story, reframe the story and integrate the story. The Radical Forgiveness Worksheet is an excellent tool for weekly maintenance of issues that come up in your life. A workshop is available for you to practice this tool. Radical Forgiveness Coaching in private session can be scheduled as well. You can walk through the steps of RF in the privacy of your home or car on CD or audiotape.

Visit www.rsraleigh.com for scheduled events. The book Radical Forgiveness, Making Room for the Miracle is available at a 10% discount with a copy of this article in Innerchange by e-mailing Raemetheny@nc.rr.com or calling 919-848-1493. In this book, Colin Tipping reframes September 11. Colin has dedicated his life to bringing forgiveness to our planet. Visit www.radicalforgiveness.com to learn more about Colin and his work. Rev. Rae Metheny is a certified Radical Forgiveness Coach and the founding Religious Science Minister of the Center for Conscious Living, a loving, empowering spiritual community teaching the principles of the Science of Mind by Dr. Ernest Holmes (1888-1960).