My name is Shelly. I’m 21 years old, living with my mom, her
new husband, and her 12 year old daughter. I go to college, and I’m
doing pretty good there. I have been diagnosed with tinnitus. It’s a
ringing in my ears that started about 5 years ago.
At that time, my mom's boyfriend was living with us, but they
split up after arguing for a couple of years. I was also serious about a
guy in my life, but we split up after I caught him cheating on me.
Right now, I live at home when I am off of school, and I have
a pretty good job at a local restaurant. My mom’s house is small, and I
really don’t have my own space. Even though I’m welcome there, it’s not
comfortable and I’m looking for an apartment to share with someone when
I’m off of school.
The ringing is getting worse. I don’t know if I want to
follow the doctor’s route of treatment, or if they even treat it
effectively, and I want to know if there is anything I can do to help heal it.
Tired of having to tune out the noise,
Shelly, Wilmington, NC
Please do get advice from the medical doctor. Now that I’ve
suggested that, Tinnitus relates to a sensitivity to something you hear.
Something just doesn’t sound quite right. Perhaps something is even be “covered up”. When you first developed the symptoms, you heard from your
boyfriend that, “There’s always a place for you in my heart.” This may
have been perceived as a lie, as he was cheating on you and had someone
else in his heart. Release any leftover anger at him. Although he did lie
to you, he did so out of fear.
Then at home 5 years ago your mom’s boyfriend “crowded” you
out. Now you may also feel crowded out in your present house. “There’s a
place for you here”, and “you are always welcome” may feel like lies.
They are things you want to hear, but cannot believe them when you do
hear them. And may create anger when you do hear them. Trust your own
ears. They may be perceiving things accurately.
The saying “home is where the heart is” may be real
applicable here. It’s time to look for a bigger home…the Spirit within
your own heart The heart within Spirit. Forgive your Mom for having her
own needs, even thought they do not necessarily coincide with yours.
Additionally, any mis-communications or communications that are covered
up, as well as any limitations that are put upon you, may be done out of
fear of either hurting you or hurting themselves. Hey, we are all just a
bunch of poor slobs doing our best to meet our own and others’ needs.
Forgive them for failing to meet yours, and go for your own space.
Positive Thought To Manifest: I trust my perceptions. I accept the
Infinite love and support from Spirit. And I support others on doing the same.
Make your home wherever you are,
Steven Rogat is a
metaphysical consultant, Spiritual & Shamanic Healer, Licensed Professional Counselor,
personal growth facilitator and author of Healing Thoughts, Therapeutic Shamanism:
A Bridge Between Metaphysics & Psychotherapy. Along with his wife Marcia, Steven co-ounded the Creative Thought Center (www.creativethought.org)
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