Dear Steve: I am
63 years old. I have high blood pressure, and circulation
problems. I am also effected a lot by changes in the
weather, and have been since I was a child. I am widowed,
and even though I have some family around me, I am a
bit lonely. I work for the government, but am looking
forward to retiring in a few years. Otherwise, my health
is pretty good. Any help you can give would be appreciated.
~ Frieda, Switzerland
Dear Frieda: We’ll
cover whether changes and blood pressure at another
time. Circulatory problems reflect the extremes of emotions.
Your energy is just not reaching your extremities. You
are an emotional person. However, the emotions themselves
are not at issue. You may judge those feelings as bad,
getting angry because you get angry, sad because you’re
sad and so on. Anger is not bad, sadness is not bad,
joy in the face of others’ sadness and pain is
not bad. What may seem limiting is how you express those
emotions, and how others judge your feelings. Your history
may be full of others being threatened by your feelings.
Well, Frieda, those people no longer have power over
You can express sadness and anger
in a loving way. You can express your joy and ALLOW
others to share in that. I recommend Hypnotherapy or
another short term type of therapy in which you can
experience your FULL range of emotions in a loving,
supportive atmosphere. "Peak" Spiritual experiences
would also be useful - chanting, experiential meditations,
yoga, Tai Chi. And don’t forget about sensuality
- massages, baths, incense, sex, music, movement, good
feeling clothing, and so on.
Never apologize for your feelings.
You can apologize for how you EXPRESSED those feelings,
but never for the feelings themselves. They let you
know what you need and want.
Positive Thought To Manifest: I express
ALL my feelings at the perfect time, and in whatever
form is for the Highest Good. I allow others to feel
safe with that.
Bring Spirit Back Home (your body
will love you for it), Steve
Dear Steve: My husband,
Elliot, is 40 years old. He has a semi-successful marketing
business, and is an author. We’ve been working
on a book together for years, and finally finished and
published it a few months ago, but then he came up with
a liver disease. It is actually a hereditary disease
that hits children, and is extremely rare for an adult
to have it. The doctors say it is terminal, that eventually
he will need a liver transplant. We have been married
for ten years, and have a seven year old daughter. Elliot’s
father died when Elliot was an adolescent, and his mother
got sick, and didn’t fully recover, just a year
ago. Our marriage hasn’t always been the best,
but we’re working things out, and looking forward
to doing some traveling and promoting the book.
Worried about losing my husband, Gayle,
Palm Springs, CA
Dear Gayle: The liver,
generally, relates to being able express joy in one’s
life (whereas the Spleen relates to experiencing joy).
Your husband just reached a major goal in his life.
He just reached a new level in the process of "growing
up", but then got a childhood disease. He has a
great opportunity to express joy in his life, but is
hitting the resistance to that.
For him, specifically, he may be afraid
of growing up and leaving his family (just like his
own father). He may have a thought that "to express
joy means leaving others," or "others will
leave me." With his recent successes, he may have
too many expectations of himself for the future, and
may not now give himself permission to act on that success.
Also, the family pattern is too striking to ignore -
his own father died when Elliot was young, and now there’s
a possibility of him passing on while his child is young.
Whether he beats this dis-ease or not, he needs to see
where, when and how he can share quality (not quantity)
time with others. Set at least one day a week aside
when you do not talk about any problems at all.
Positive Thought to Manifest: I allow
myself to express joy in my life. I allow others to
share in that joy. And I have the perfect amount of
response-ability at the perfect time.
Remember to play, Steve
Steven Rogat is a
metaphysical consultant, Spiritual & Shamanic Healer, Licensed Professional Counselor,
personal growth facilitator and author of Healing Thoughts, Therapeutic Shamanism:
A Bridge Between Metaphysics & Psychotherapy. Along with his wife Marcia, Steven co-ounded the Creative Thought Center (www.creativethought.org)
limiting thoughts and emotions are reflected
energetically in the body. Healing the stressors
compliments any and all methods of physical
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