Kicking the Big But Syndrome® - An Introduction

by Eddie Conner

Editor's note: The following is an excerpt from Eddie Conner's book Kicking the Big But Syndrome. Printed with permission from the author. Experience Eddie's incredible, high energy at the upcoming symposium, Living the Law of Attraction, June 3, 2005 in Raleigh.

To believe is to be strong. Doubt cramps energy. Belief is power.
~ Frederick William Robertson

Humans are the only species on this planet who contradict desires with a variety of negative belief patterns. As a result, we are the only physical entities who can and do get ourselves caught in the trappings of the BIG BUT Syndrome®.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the population in our country was 281,421,906 in the year 2000. Now, that's a lot of people in one location. It's no wonder the acreage we lived on as children has greatly reduced in size and tripled in value in such a short span of time.

Every minute, at least one million Americans are infected with the BIG BUT Syndrome®, and every hour, the dreams of another five million people are either contaminated or terminated in this epidemic of contradicted beliefs.

Are you one of the millions of people working long hours to make your dreams a reality, BUT you can't seem to get where you want to go? Have you ever felt there was an invisible force holding you back from your long-awaited goals and aspirations? If so, you know what it feels like to be trapped in a contradicted vortex of hard work and frustration in which you realize you are not where you deserve to be in life.

Without realizing it, most adults think and talk in a contradictory way about the subjects that are most important to them. They express what they do and do not want in the same sentence or action. A common example of this behavior is when we hear people say things like, "I want a relationship, but most men are jerks." If I had a dime for every time I heard that sentence, I could buy a condo with a penthouse view between Bill Gates and Donald Trump.

Another area of contrary desire is money. It is fascinating to observe people talking about lack of, absence of, and not-enough-of money in their lives. The desire for money is abundant enough, BUT the opposing belief to that desire is a poverty consciousness. In many ways, the same conflicted dynamic holds true with our personal beliefs around our careers.

When people seek advice from psychics, coaches, or therapists, they ask about the "Big Three" topics: Love, Money, and Career. These are the most talked about adult topics we engage in with the greatest desire and opposing negative emotion.

Mental note: the next time you are with friends or co-workers, listen and feel the frequency or energetic tone of the conversation. You will recognize the difference between hi-frequency and low-frequency dialogue immediately.

A hi-frequency tone ranges from a feel good, to a feel great, to an orgasmic sensation, while a low-frequency interaction ranges from complacency, to mild irritation, to a depressed energy tone.

As we talk about hi-frequency subjects, we attract more hi-frequency people, places, and situations. The same is true with low-frequency dialogues; as we discuss subjects that irritate us, we attract irritating people, places, and situations to us.

While chewing the fat with our buddies, we have a tendency to talk about, think about, and observe the things we do NOT want in life. We think we're talking about what we do want, because we're talking about subject matter that is important to us. However, more often than not, we're verbalizing and vibrating low-grade frequencies. For instance, during work how many times have we congregated at the water cooler to complain with our fellow associates about the neglect of upper management, pay cuts, mistreatment, or the fear of being laid off or worse, fired? In these moments, we are usually radiating a low frequency and observing more of what we do NOT want while we are talking about our job.

The frequency we emanate while communicating our thoughts or our spoken word is always a dead giveaway as to how we truly feel about the subject matter. If we are honestly talking about what we want, we should be feeling good about it-not bad.

Let's stick with relationships. Pretend you are single and out with good friends. The conversation turns to your desire to have a serious intimated relationship, someone to spend the rest of your life with. What is the first thing you and your friends talk about where love and finding the perfect someone to settle down with is concerned?

Did you notice how quickly and easily the conversation eroded into the old "learned" behavior that felt more low-frequency than hi-frequency? Just for fun, have you been in a conversation that sounded something like: "I want a relationship but, I don't want to waste any more time if he/she isn't the right one for me," or "The clock's ticking honey, I can't wait much longer, my eggs are drying up. Yikes, there goes another one! Quick, get me to the freezer!"?

Most adults spend more time imagining, pretending, daydreaming, fantasizing, and believing the impossibilities about our heartfelt, hi-frequency desires. We actively cancel out those positive needs and replace our pure desire with habitual problem-solving and troubleshooting patterns that we use to protect ourselves from repeating the same mistakes from our personal history. Or so we thought!

Where did we learn to contradict our desires?

We inherited this unseen habit of thought from authority figures while growing up. The fruit never falls far from the tree. For the most part, we are the byproducts of our ancestors, and we will more than likely follow in their footsteps. We must make a conscious decision to change our ancestral low-frequency patterns of contradiction to present-moment hi-frequency patterns of pure desire.

When we learn to love without contradicting love with worry, and when we consciously choose to appreciate the money in our pockets right now without complaining that it's not enough, our lives will change in miraculous ways.

The moment we lose our BIG BUTs, we automatically emanate a series of pure, refined energy signals from within us to the heart and soul of the Universe. In return, the Universe can finally bring us what we do want instead of more of what we do not want.

I know all of us are here to create our personal greatness and to joyously carry that greatness in our hearts, body language, and spirits. Tapping into this wellspring of heavenly bliss is easier to accomplish than we realize. It is my intention to offer you many Soul Instruments you can easily implement in order to create your desired outcome with love, money, career, and other areas that are important to you.

Don't miss Eddie's visit to North Carolina this June! Current schedule: SFF speaker Thursday, 6/2; Booksigning at Dancing Moon Friday, 6/3; Living the Law of Attraction Symposium Saturday, 6/4. For more info, call (919) 661-2282.